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General Gayety by Leslie Robinson
Giving Lesbian courting a kick-start
by Leslie Robinson - SGN Contributing Writer

It all began with a blunder.

Friends had given me positive reports about a monthly tea dance for Lesbians over 35 held at a Gay club here in Seattle. I'd heard a lot of women on the dating prowl showed up for these "Hot Flash Dances." Being me, I was willing to go just because I loved the name.

My friend Clare and I conspired to try it out. We parked, walked up to the club, and discovered we'd picked the one Saturday the dance organizers apparently skip. Really, it takes talent to perform such a bone-headed maneuver.

Clare and I retired to the women's bar to grumble about the difficulties in meeting single Lesbians. Before we descended irretrievably into beer-soaked self-pity, I voiced an idea that had been poking around the fringes of my brain.

Roughly speaking, the idea was "Hey, kids, let's put on a show!" mixed with "If you build it, they will come."

We decided to find a large space and stage a Lesbian social event of our own. I guess that's taking the bull by the horns. Or, um, the cow by the udders.

We envisioned scads of single Lesbians meeting and schmoozing. A time and place for women who want to connect to do so safely and unabashedly. Not to mention cheaply-we're charging $2 a head for munchies. A way better deal than Match.com.

I borrowed a pen from the bartender to keep track of all the brainstorming. Where could we hold this event? How could we spread the word about it? Just how effective is a grapevine of mature but hot-to-trot Lesbians?

We tackled the question of how to run this do. Speed-dating? No, too much work, especially for us. Have everyone talk about herself for a minute? Too stressful. Turn out the lights and lock the doors? Hmm.

We decided to go pretty free-form. Our job is to get the Lesbians in a big room, and provide a congenial atmosphere. After that, the actual communicating will be up to them. Although we might have a way or two of facilitating that. A cattle prod leaps to mind.

As we fine-tuned the plan, I became aware how good it felt to be doing something proactive. This was much more satisfying than whining over beer, or beefing over wine.

Clare had an epiphany. The Gay-friendly church for which she works as a graphic designer has rooms suitable for gathering. I was several beers short of thinking our scheme betrayed a touch of the divine, but it did sound more and more inspired.

At the first opportunity, Clare secured permission from the woman who schedules rooms at the church. That gal also became our first customer. Now that's a symbiotic relationship.

I wrote a blurb about the event to send to listservs and friends. I didn't promise the moon, knowing full well we couldn't provide it. The truth, it seemed to me, was alluring enough-that there are lots of women out there over 35 who want to meet other women, and if word of this affair spreads, we could have oodles of Lesbians on hand for an evening of schmoozing and cruising.

If word doesn't spread and attendance is sparse, I'll be forced to make the most agonizing small talk since Queen Elizabeth found herself seated next to George Bush.

Judging by the e-mails Clare and I are receiving, I don't think that will happen. Women are signing up. Several people who can't come that evening want to be on our mailing list. Our what? I thought we'd strike a nerve, but I didn't foresee turning into Dolly Levi.

Leslie Robinson doesn't fear small talk. Reach her at LesRobinsn@aol.com, and read more of her columns at www.GeneralGayety.com.

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